You went out one night, had a little too much to drink, you kissed someone. CHEATED!
You went out one night with a girl, had something to eat, went back to her place and had sex. CHEATED! This isn’t your first time though, this is your 3rd time and now she considers you her boyfriend, since she isn’t aware of the other women. AFFAIR! While messing around with your girlfriend, you get a call from your ex and she’s in your area, you meet her and have sex. You are now messing with three women and you’re in two relationships. CHEATER!
Cheating is hard to forgive, but you can forgive someone for cheating. A GIRL yes a GIRL, kisses some guy she meets at a bar, because she was drunk, yes she cheated. It just one kiss though and you are certain she won’t do it again, probably will though. Who goes to a bar by themselves and drinks in an area where being hit on is a definite? That is pretty strange; I’m getting off topic though.
A cheater is someone who has cheated more than once, now a cheater, is always going to be a cheater. Once you cheat, then cheat again, you will cheat again. That’s for certain and I’ll put money on that. If you cheat once, yeah there is hope, you might not do it again. Since you explain it to them and you have to earn back their trust, but if you do it twice! HA! You’re a cheater, what is honestly stopping you from doing it again? Since whatever you said before, clearly didn’t stick, since you cheated a second time.
Once a cheater, always a cheater; It’s alright though, you get this cool name tag.
Affairs take some work, considering you’ve passed cheating and begin a cheater and decided to formulate relationships around relationships, I guess you like commitment, but still want more than one person. THIS IS THE WORST! I mean cheating is one thing and being a cheater is another.
Stringing along a bunch of people, emotionally is just horrible and if the person is found out, their rep will be totalled.
Your best is just to stay single, if you want to mess with more than one person.
That or just you know, remain faithful.
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Saturday, April 2, 2011
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Surveillance of your Significant Others Cellphone Activity
Someone asked me a question and as much as I hate to deviate for my typical format this one is sort of interesting. In this case, it’s hard to come out “winning” as Charlie Sheen would put it. You see the question I was asked was. IS IT WRONG TO GO TROUGH A SIGNIFICANT OTHERS PHONE WITHOUT PERMISSION, IS IT JUTSFIBLE OR A DEAL BREAKER? Now I find this as interesting question because there are many ways to approach this.
I have one example.
“Marsha Moore Anderson just happens to be on her boyfriend’s facebook. While there, she knows she should close it and respect his privacy, but she doesn’t. Without even suspecting anything, she’s just curious you know, she goes through his messages. A couple pages in she finds out he’s been cheating on her with, say her best friend and they’ve sent pictures of themselves to each other. The power of facebook.”
Now you see in this case, yes her boyfriend is in the wrong, but so is she. She can’t just go up to him and confront him, because what is she doing going through
his stuff? This is where the key aspect trust comes into play. Marsha shouldn’t have
been so damn nosey and her boyfriend should be more faithful. Both of them have displayed a lack of trust and decency, I guess that’s why it works lol I’m kidding.
A relationship only works when there is trust.
Do I think it’s wrong to go through a significant others phone? Yes.
It’s none of your business.
Even till this day and I don’t know if this is just me, but anything to do with my girlfriend’s phone and her personal connections, I stay out of it. If her phone rings, I’ll tell her, I won’t look to see who it is. It’s not my business. If she misses a call, I won’t see who called her; I’ll tell her she missed a call. It’s not my business. Text message and any sort of message, a heads up is all that is needed. It’s not my business, why do I feel the need to know who is the contact? I don’t.
If you trust your partner, you don’t need to go through their phone.
Let trust look at that phone.
You are looking at the phone without trust.
“I just want to make sure, they aren’t cheating on me.”
You sitting your ass down and letting trust look at the phone.”
“Hey, I know you want to check but honestly come on, you know it’s all good, don’t worry about it. In fact, I’m looking at it now and there is nothing here.” IN FACT something you find stuff you shouldn’t even be reading.
1. Important family issues, that don’t concern you.
2. A tragic accident that happened to a friend.
3. Someone else’s personal concerns.
Yes a relationship requires honestly and full exposure, but that doesn’t include the personal aspects that friends share with you, then you end up losing their trust and no one is happy.
Now do I think it’s justifiable? Of course I do, in some instances. Someone who has cheated before, is most likely going to cheat again or is very capable of doing so. Think about it. People have thought of cheating and never go through with it. This person has and what’s stopping them really from doing it again? Oh they love you? They said that to the other person too. They would never do it? Oh yeah, get real. You think people in relationships go “oh by the way, I might cheat on you, I probably won’t but there is a possibility.”????? HELL NO! If a person has cheated before, you better keep your eyes on them.
If you suspect they are cheating. Your best bet isn’t to go through their phone. No, your best bet is to ask them. Try that real heart to heart talk, bring up concerns worries and questions motives, for things you don’t fully understand. If the story doesn’t add up, then whatever, I’m not looking. Though prepare for a backlash of anger and disgust, once you find out nothing is going on and you are just paranoid.
If you do plan on catching them and they are cheating, at least get them to confess…this behind your back stuff isn’t good for a relationship. Not to mention, this sort of approach is just going to carry onto your next relationship…
Then when you find someone who can’t take, they’ll end it with you.
Is this a deal breaker? Yes. If you trust me, why do you need to go through my phone? When one can answer that question, maybe we can change if it’s a deal breaker. Honestly think about it. If you believe people should fully expose themselves fine, whatever but seeing things in the light, means things in the dark also need to be seen. Relationship aren’t always brightly lit…you can’t see your significant other everywhere, you don’t know what they are thinking or doing half the time. Trust does though, when you trust someone, things are easier to deal with.
Not trusting someone, that trip to the grocery store…they are cheating on me.
Trusting someone, they are going to get the milk. It’s just easier to deal with it.
Who needs all this unnecessary stress?
In short, ask questions.
Going through a S.O. phone. Don’t do it.
Just work on trust and communication.
If you can’t do that, you probably are better off cutting your losses and moving on.
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I have one example.
“Marsha Moore Anderson just happens to be on her boyfriend’s facebook. While there, she knows she should close it and respect his privacy, but she doesn’t. Without even suspecting anything, she’s just curious you know, she goes through his messages. A couple pages in she finds out he’s been cheating on her with, say her best friend and they’ve sent pictures of themselves to each other. The power of facebook.”
Now you see in this case, yes her boyfriend is in the wrong, but so is she. She can’t just go up to him and confront him, because what is she doing going through
his stuff? This is where the key aspect trust comes into play. Marsha shouldn’t have
been so damn nosey and her boyfriend should be more faithful. Both of them have displayed a lack of trust and decency, I guess that’s why it works lol I’m kidding.
A relationship only works when there is trust.
Do I think it’s wrong to go through a significant others phone? Yes.
It’s none of your business.
Even till this day and I don’t know if this is just me, but anything to do with my girlfriend’s phone and her personal connections, I stay out of it. If her phone rings, I’ll tell her, I won’t look to see who it is. It’s not my business. If she misses a call, I won’t see who called her; I’ll tell her she missed a call. It’s not my business. Text message and any sort of message, a heads up is all that is needed. It’s not my business, why do I feel the need to know who is the contact? I don’t.
If you trust your partner, you don’t need to go through their phone.
Let trust look at that phone.
You are looking at the phone without trust.
“I just want to make sure, they aren’t cheating on me.”
You sitting your ass down and letting trust look at the phone.”
“Hey, I know you want to check but honestly come on, you know it’s all good, don’t worry about it. In fact, I’m looking at it now and there is nothing here.” IN FACT something you find stuff you shouldn’t even be reading.
1. Important family issues, that don’t concern you.
2. A tragic accident that happened to a friend.
3. Someone else’s personal concerns.
Yes a relationship requires honestly and full exposure, but that doesn’t include the personal aspects that friends share with you, then you end up losing their trust and no one is happy.
Now do I think it’s justifiable? Of course I do, in some instances. Someone who has cheated before, is most likely going to cheat again or is very capable of doing so. Think about it. People have thought of cheating and never go through with it. This person has and what’s stopping them really from doing it again? Oh they love you? They said that to the other person too. They would never do it? Oh yeah, get real. You think people in relationships go “oh by the way, I might cheat on you, I probably won’t but there is a possibility.”????? HELL NO! If a person has cheated before, you better keep your eyes on them.
If you suspect they are cheating. Your best bet isn’t to go through their phone. No, your best bet is to ask them. Try that real heart to heart talk, bring up concerns worries and questions motives, for things you don’t fully understand. If the story doesn’t add up, then whatever, I’m not looking. Though prepare for a backlash of anger and disgust, once you find out nothing is going on and you are just paranoid.
If you do plan on catching them and they are cheating, at least get them to confess…this behind your back stuff isn’t good for a relationship. Not to mention, this sort of approach is just going to carry onto your next relationship…
Then when you find someone who can’t take, they’ll end it with you.
Is this a deal breaker? Yes. If you trust me, why do you need to go through my phone? When one can answer that question, maybe we can change if it’s a deal breaker. Honestly think about it. If you believe people should fully expose themselves fine, whatever but seeing things in the light, means things in the dark also need to be seen. Relationship aren’t always brightly lit…you can’t see your significant other everywhere, you don’t know what they are thinking or doing half the time. Trust does though, when you trust someone, things are easier to deal with.
Not trusting someone, that trip to the grocery store…they are cheating on me.
Trusting someone, they are going to get the milk. It’s just easier to deal with it.
Who needs all this unnecessary stress?
In short, ask questions.
Going through a S.O. phone. Don’t do it.
Just work on trust and communication.
If you can’t do that, you probably are better off cutting your losses and moving on.
By: Michael Richardson
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Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Questions from lovely people :) Part #6
Person asked:
why would a guy claim they really like someone, yet still fool around with others. even if theyre capable of getting into a proper relationship with the one they really like.
Michael answers:
There are a lot of reasons as to why one would pull the typical.
“I really like you, but” remark and I’ll list them out for you.
1. He wants to keep his options open. Ever heard of putting all your eggs in one basket? Let’s say he does do that, one day he just messes up and drops the basket, bye bye eggs. Let’s say that basket is faulty and just breaks, once again, bye bye eggs. Let’s say he leaves the basket of eggs for abit and some other guy comes around and starts trying to make those eggs hatch, o_O *what?* I don’t know…all I know is, if anything happens to that basket or those eggs…it’s bye bye eggs.
If you send all your troops to war, you risk having them all shot down my machine guns and alertly fire. If you dedicate all your time to one girl, you risk losing her, having your heart broken, time wasted and lose out on so many other opportunities.
Now you’re thinking “BUT WAIT!? Don’t you have a girlfriend, why do you seem so against commitment?” I’m getting to that.
When one can look past the other opportunities because the person they are with is worth it…then it works. That’s when your troops come back, won the war and you celebrate…
This guy could honestly just be thinking.
“Hey, she’s cute and I like her. Then again, I want to keep my options open. That girl over there is checking me out and I got a date with so and so, you know I don’t know if I want to get all comfy and cozy with this one girl.
It sucks but it’s true. If this is the case that girl better make it known she wants to be the only one and risk getting the B O O T because he wants B O O T I E S vs the one B O O T Y …
2. If he got out of a bad relationship, maybe he doesn’t want to jump back into one. Maybe he’s afraid it’s gonna be just like that last and he wants to save himself the trouble. Maybe his last girlfriend beat him with a broom stick after sex, I don’t know. A traumatizing past relationship, could effect a future relationship…dude might just have issues.
3. The worst. Maybe he’s just not into this girl. Maybe he knows she will cut once he tells her the truth. The truth that’s being hidden behind the…
“I really like you, I just don’t want to put a label on it.”
Which could just mean.
“I really like you, but honestly I like a lot of girls and I don’t want to mess up this nice little thing I have going with all the girls that like me. So I’m going to put my “relationship life” on cruise control and just “casually date” all of you…till something happens, because I’m not focusing on being “official” …
In short.
Life’s too short to be with one person.
Let’s all get goddesses like Charlie Sheen
I kid but seriously, I gave you the honest straight to the point answer...
Dude just might one more than one girl...wants to keep his options open...
And might be stringing you along and not respecting that you want more...
It's your call. You can always do better.
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why would a guy claim they really like someone, yet still fool around with others. even if theyre capable of getting into a proper relationship with the one they really like.
Michael answers:
There are a lot of reasons as to why one would pull the typical.
“I really like you, but” remark and I’ll list them out for you.
1. He wants to keep his options open. Ever heard of putting all your eggs in one basket? Let’s say he does do that, one day he just messes up and drops the basket, bye bye eggs. Let’s say that basket is faulty and just breaks, once again, bye bye eggs. Let’s say he leaves the basket of eggs for abit and some other guy comes around and starts trying to make those eggs hatch, o_O *what?* I don’t know…all I know is, if anything happens to that basket or those eggs…it’s bye bye eggs.
If you send all your troops to war, you risk having them all shot down my machine guns and alertly fire. If you dedicate all your time to one girl, you risk losing her, having your heart broken, time wasted and lose out on so many other opportunities.
Now you’re thinking “BUT WAIT!? Don’t you have a girlfriend, why do you seem so against commitment?” I’m getting to that.
When one can look past the other opportunities because the person they are with is worth it…then it works. That’s when your troops come back, won the war and you celebrate…
This guy could honestly just be thinking.
“Hey, she’s cute and I like her. Then again, I want to keep my options open. That girl over there is checking me out and I got a date with so and so, you know I don’t know if I want to get all comfy and cozy with this one girl.
It sucks but it’s true. If this is the case that girl better make it known she wants to be the only one and risk getting the B O O T because he wants B O O T I E S vs the one B O O T Y …
2. If he got out of a bad relationship, maybe he doesn’t want to jump back into one. Maybe he’s afraid it’s gonna be just like that last and he wants to save himself the trouble. Maybe his last girlfriend beat him with a broom stick after sex, I don’t know. A traumatizing past relationship, could effect a future relationship…dude might just have issues.
3. The worst. Maybe he’s just not into this girl. Maybe he knows she will cut once he tells her the truth. The truth that’s being hidden behind the…
“I really like you, I just don’t want to put a label on it.”
Which could just mean.
“I really like you, but honestly I like a lot of girls and I don’t want to mess up this nice little thing I have going with all the girls that like me. So I’m going to put my “relationship life” on cruise control and just “casually date” all of you…till something happens, because I’m not focusing on being “official” …
In short.
Life’s too short to be with one person.
Let’s all get goddesses like Charlie Sheen
I kid but seriously, I gave you the honest straight to the point answer...
Dude just might one more than one girl...wants to keep his options open...
And might be stringing you along and not respecting that you want more...
It's your call. You can always do better.
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Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Will you girls please just say NO! Some of us guys are a little confused.
This one is for the lovely ladies and the dumbstruck men. I was once like you men too, don’t worry. I once thought I was never rejected. I thought all the girls were crazy for me and they could only help but say yes. You know, because of my sexy deep voice, childlike undertone and over the top personality. I flatter myself, but I was wrong, no not about the complements. That is all true. I was wrong about never being rejected; apparently I was rejected quite a bit.
How could I honestly trick myself into believing I was never rejected though? It’s easy and there are plenty of guys that aren’t getting this fact and I’m going to make it very clear.
WOMEN HAVE A HARD TIME “OPENELY” REJECTING MEN!
They key word here is “openly/obvious” let me give you an example of an obvious rejection.
Jim: Would you like to go out with me?
Carla: No.
It’s a little on the blunt side, but Carla made it very clear, open and obvious. Read that again, she said no. Meaning she doesn’t want to go out. It’s that clear, open and obvious. No, no, no… there is nothing else to her response, she said no and she isn’t interested in going out with Jim.
Most men don’t get that response though, they get this thing.
Jim: Would you like to go out with me?
Carla: Um, can’t…
You’ve been rejected.
Note that any responses will only be valid once you A: Confirm a new date or B: She offers a new date.
Carla: Um, can’t…
I’m busy: This can mean anything and most of the time it’s missing something and that’s “I’m too busy…too hang out with you…but I can hang out with my friends, family, watch television, go on Facebook and just do nothing…just can’t see you…”
If she followed up with a nice
Carla: Maybe we can get together (insert a date here and no not a “sometime in the future or anything vauge…you deserve a day and a time.)
Or even
Jim: How about (another day and a time)
Carla: Ok sounds great
If she saids she can’t, don’t bother, move on…
You’ve been rejected.
If you did get a date and she didn’t answer your call to confirm, didn’t show up and
then gives you some lame excuse.
You’ve been rejected.
Many women don’t say NO. They are just being nice I guess, I’d rather they say no though. Think about it, the girls saids no, I can move on, it’s her loss.
NOW! If she saids ok, then doesn’t show up, she’s wasted my time and my efforts. That seems a lot harsher. If she saids ok, then gives me a fake number, that’s just harsh. She saids ok, then tells me at the last minute she can’t make it, no no no, that’s not right.
Guys, notice when a girl is rejected you, you aren’t stupid. If it seems like it’s hard to date a certain girl, like her schedule is dodging you and for some reason she can’t seem to make time or even try to make time, she’s rejecting you.
And girls.
Just make It clear, two letter word. Just say no.
You don’t want to give out your number, say no.
You don’t want to go out, say no.
We are past the no means yes stage…
Say no
and we will go
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How could I honestly trick myself into believing I was never rejected though? It’s easy and there are plenty of guys that aren’t getting this fact and I’m going to make it very clear.
WOMEN HAVE A HARD TIME “OPENELY” REJECTING MEN!
They key word here is “openly/obvious” let me give you an example of an obvious rejection.
Jim: Would you like to go out with me?
Carla: No.
It’s a little on the blunt side, but Carla made it very clear, open and obvious. Read that again, she said no. Meaning she doesn’t want to go out. It’s that clear, open and obvious. No, no, no… there is nothing else to her response, she said no and she isn’t interested in going out with Jim.
Most men don’t get that response though, they get this thing.
Jim: Would you like to go out with me?
Carla: Um, can’t…
You’ve been rejected.
Note that any responses will only be valid once you A: Confirm a new date or B: She offers a new date.
Carla: Um, can’t…
I’m busy: This can mean anything and most of the time it’s missing something and that’s “I’m too busy…too hang out with you…but I can hang out with my friends, family, watch television, go on Facebook and just do nothing…just can’t see you…”
If she followed up with a nice
Carla: Maybe we can get together (insert a date here and no not a “sometime in the future or anything vauge…you deserve a day and a time.)
Or even
Jim: How about (another day and a time)
Carla: Ok sounds great
If she saids she can’t, don’t bother, move on…
You’ve been rejected.
If you did get a date and she didn’t answer your call to confirm, didn’t show up and
then gives you some lame excuse.
You’ve been rejected.
Many women don’t say NO. They are just being nice I guess, I’d rather they say no though. Think about it, the girls saids no, I can move on, it’s her loss.
NOW! If she saids ok, then doesn’t show up, she’s wasted my time and my efforts. That seems a lot harsher. If she saids ok, then gives me a fake number, that’s just harsh. She saids ok, then tells me at the last minute she can’t make it, no no no, that’s not right.
Guys, notice when a girl is rejected you, you aren’t stupid. If it seems like it’s hard to date a certain girl, like her schedule is dodging you and for some reason she can’t seem to make time or even try to make time, she’s rejecting you.
And girls.
Just make It clear, two letter word. Just say no.
You don’t want to give out your number, say no.
You don’t want to go out, say no.
We are past the no means yes stage…
Say no
and we will go
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Sunday, February 13, 2011
February the 13th = Another day to remember how awesome you are. Valentine’s Day FINAL!
I was watching a preview for, one of my favourite shows “how I met your mother” and it’s pretty interesting episode. It’s airing on Valentine’s Day no doubt, hope you get to watch it. Link below to the preview and another link to the important part, watch them both. They aren’t even that long, come on! Just watch them! Thank you. You are really kind.
New episode
Desperation Day
Now why am I opening this with a couple videos from “how I met your mother” ??? Good question, it’s because the trailers are really funny. Seriously though, it’s the topic. The topic being.
NOT WANTING TO BE ALONE!
As Barney said in the video, if you watched it. If you didn’t watch it please watch it NOW! As I refuse to continue this post, till you do. I have all day, I don’t have to write this. Well then again. Anyways as I was saying, no one wants to be alone and more so on this day. It’s the 13th the day before the bigger day the 14th. Sure most can say “meh Valentine’s Day, who needs it? I’ll be fine with my television and solitaire.” Will you though? It seems the beginning February spirits are high in the sky, but after that, as the day looms over head, the stigma kicks in.
I guess it has to do with the fact most believe Valentine’s Day is centered around couples and being together and it’s not. I’ve said this before, so I shall say it again. I’m going against couples everywhere and personally even if I have a girlfriend, I still can’t stand couples. With their public displays of affection *I do that* and their kissing in front of people, like no one else is around *I also do that* but still…can’t stand em. As I said before, Valentine’s Day is about sharing time with yourself or others. All the gift giving, is simply commercial nonsense.
I do however support partaking in said nonsense, to show love and admiration for someone other than yourself. In short, I bought my girlfriend stuff for Valentine’s Day, despite it being a Hallmark creation.
Now it’s pretty late, so I’m sure a couple people out there are scrambling to work something out with someone QUICK, so they aren’t alone on Valentine’s Day. This is just crazy. There is no reason why hot, attractive single people like yourself *if you are single* to be looking for someone to be with. Think about it. You weren’t looking for someone before, why now. Because of Valentine’s Day? I only lasts 24 hours and then after that it’s the 15th and what’s on that day.
*Person from the back: My sons birthday*
Oh, well, um. Aside from that NOTHING! It’s just another day. Maintain that strong willed independence and remember you don’t need someone else to make you feel good, you are good. In fact, you’re great. You can do whatever you want to tomorrow and it can be by yourself or with someone. Just as long as you know, that you are great.
You know what, let’s take this back to kindergarten. Pat yourself on the back, you’re awesome. Not to mention today is also a day for many people to be taken advantage of and I don’t support that.
Since a couple of single people are desperate to locate someone else. Other people who are in this for the wrong reasons, can easily hook up with them and take advantage of their feelings and this wrong. Hooking up with someone this way, is low.
Just remember, you just need you. You are awesome. This isn’t desperation day, it’s appreciation day and it’s 24/7.…
Damn straight.
Well I think I should wrap this up. Please leave a comment with your thoughts on Valentine’s Day and just anything relevant….Thank you for your time.
<3
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New episode
Desperation Day
Now why am I opening this with a couple videos from “how I met your mother” ??? Good question, it’s because the trailers are really funny. Seriously though, it’s the topic. The topic being.
NOT WANTING TO BE ALONE!
As Barney said in the video, if you watched it. If you didn’t watch it please watch it NOW! As I refuse to continue this post, till you do. I have all day, I don’t have to write this. Well then again. Anyways as I was saying, no one wants to be alone and more so on this day. It’s the 13th the day before the bigger day the 14th. Sure most can say “meh Valentine’s Day, who needs it? I’ll be fine with my television and solitaire.” Will you though? It seems the beginning February spirits are high in the sky, but after that, as the day looms over head, the stigma kicks in.
I guess it has to do with the fact most believe Valentine’s Day is centered around couples and being together and it’s not. I’ve said this before, so I shall say it again. I’m going against couples everywhere and personally even if I have a girlfriend, I still can’t stand couples. With their public displays of affection *I do that* and their kissing in front of people, like no one else is around *I also do that* but still…can’t stand em. As I said before, Valentine’s Day is about sharing time with yourself or others. All the gift giving, is simply commercial nonsense.
I do however support partaking in said nonsense, to show love and admiration for someone other than yourself. In short, I bought my girlfriend stuff for Valentine’s Day, despite it being a Hallmark creation.
Now it’s pretty late, so I’m sure a couple people out there are scrambling to work something out with someone QUICK, so they aren’t alone on Valentine’s Day. This is just crazy. There is no reason why hot, attractive single people like yourself *if you are single* to be looking for someone to be with. Think about it. You weren’t looking for someone before, why now. Because of Valentine’s Day? I only lasts 24 hours and then after that it’s the 15th and what’s on that day.
*Person from the back: My sons birthday*
Oh, well, um. Aside from that NOTHING! It’s just another day. Maintain that strong willed independence and remember you don’t need someone else to make you feel good, you are good. In fact, you’re great. You can do whatever you want to tomorrow and it can be by yourself or with someone. Just as long as you know, that you are great.
You know what, let’s take this back to kindergarten. Pat yourself on the back, you’re awesome. Not to mention today is also a day for many people to be taken advantage of and I don’t support that.
Since a couple of single people are desperate to locate someone else. Other people who are in this for the wrong reasons, can easily hook up with them and take advantage of their feelings and this wrong. Hooking up with someone this way, is low.
Just remember, you just need you. You are awesome. This isn’t desperation day, it’s appreciation day and it’s 24/7.…
Damn straight.
Well I think I should wrap this up. Please leave a comment with your thoughts on Valentine’s Day and just anything relevant….Thank you for your time.
<3
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Monday, February 7, 2011
Questions from lovely people :) Part #5
Person asked:
lllolll ummm whats the 3 most important qualities a man looks for in a relationship?
Michael answered:
Being a guy, I’m sure a lot of people are expecting me to say something sex related and you’d be right in some case.
The first major quality would be loyalty. I don’t know too many men that want their woman sleeping around and lying. Loyalty is very valued because it shows where the relationship is heading. If you tell a child to take five dollars and buy some milk and they do it, good, you have a sense that they are loyal to you and won’t screw you over. Though if they take the money and do something else with it, mostly to serve themselves, then you know this isn’t going to work, or your going to have to solve some issues and it’s just a big hassle. No man wants to have to go through that, when a women is loyal it’s almost impossible to try and gain back that respect and the quality is LOST! She’s got to be loyal and faithful.
The second she’s got to have a great personality. As much as men might say boobs, boobs, boobs and some ass and they are good to go, they are lying. We are talking about men who want relationships and they want a women with personality. What’s that personality got to have? She’s got to be fun and know how to have fun, maybe she’s got to be just a little lose and know how to deal with some teasing. No man wants a tight ass girl-friend. I don’t think anyone wants someone who’s stuck up. No divas, we know you look good and we are happy to be with you, but she needs to calm down.
Personality, down to earth. She’s got to know how to get along with your friends and respect to them. She’s got to respect the man, his family and his friends. She should be supportive and there for him when he needs it. In the relationship, she should be a team member, she’s got to be committed to making this work and care about her man. She needs to understand him and be able to speak up for herself. A relationship is a team effort and honestly men don’t want to feel like the girl is just there, they want to know she’s there and care that she’s there.
You can’t have respect for someone that doesn’t respect themselves.
Finally in this day in age, people are pretty sexual. So there should be some physical connection, along with the emotional one.
Love/Sex honestly a lot stronger than just love. That physical connection and intimacy really spark and ignite the passion in the relationship. If you don’t agree with me ask the many people that have sex.
I hope I’ve answered your question :D Take care.
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lllolll ummm whats the 3 most important qualities a man looks for in a relationship?
Michael answered:
Being a guy, I’m sure a lot of people are expecting me to say something sex related and you’d be right in some case.
The first major quality would be loyalty. I don’t know too many men that want their woman sleeping around and lying. Loyalty is very valued because it shows where the relationship is heading. If you tell a child to take five dollars and buy some milk and they do it, good, you have a sense that they are loyal to you and won’t screw you over. Though if they take the money and do something else with it, mostly to serve themselves, then you know this isn’t going to work, or your going to have to solve some issues and it’s just a big hassle. No man wants to have to go through that, when a women is loyal it’s almost impossible to try and gain back that respect and the quality is LOST! She’s got to be loyal and faithful.
The second she’s got to have a great personality. As much as men might say boobs, boobs, boobs and some ass and they are good to go, they are lying. We are talking about men who want relationships and they want a women with personality. What’s that personality got to have? She’s got to be fun and know how to have fun, maybe she’s got to be just a little lose and know how to deal with some teasing. No man wants a tight ass girl-friend. I don’t think anyone wants someone who’s stuck up. No divas, we know you look good and we are happy to be with you, but she needs to calm down.
Personality, down to earth. She’s got to know how to get along with your friends and respect to them. She’s got to respect the man, his family and his friends. She should be supportive and there for him when he needs it. In the relationship, she should be a team member, she’s got to be committed to making this work and care about her man. She needs to understand him and be able to speak up for herself. A relationship is a team effort and honestly men don’t want to feel like the girl is just there, they want to know she’s there and care that she’s there.
You can’t have respect for someone that doesn’t respect themselves.
Finally in this day in age, people are pretty sexual. So there should be some physical connection, along with the emotional one.
Love/Sex honestly a lot stronger than just love. That physical connection and intimacy really spark and ignite the passion in the relationship. If you don’t agree with me ask the many people that have sex.
I hope I’ve answered your question :D Take care.
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Questions from lovely people :) Part #4
Person asked:
Um is it healthy for couples to never really fight?
Michael answers:
A perfect relationship is one built around communication and understanding. It’s normal for people in relationships to have fights, that’s something that always happens. Disagreements, not seeing eye to eye with one and another and just varying points of views. All these generate fights and fights bring people together. How? Well let’s see.
I like tress and you like rocks. I personally hate rocks, because they are big and ugly. We don’t talk much about these things because, well we aren’t outside as much but now we are. So we have a fight about it and things look pretty bad, until you explain why you like rocks. Apparently when you were a kid, you fell down a hill and smacked into a rock. Now as much as that sucked, if that rock wasn’t there you would have fallen off the cliff and died. I can now see why you like rocks and have a better understanding of who you are.
Let’s say we didn’t have that fight. I would still hate rocks and you would never know that. Sure things would look alright on the surface, but at the root of it, that lack of communication would still be present. I don’t know if that’s something that bothers you, but it is there.
NOW! Before you go all super secret agent on you lover, know that a relationship can be healthy without fighting, it’s just not something you hear of. In fact, I’m pretty sure all relationships have fights, maybe you just haven’t counted some sort of predicament as a fight yet.
I hope this answers your question.
As long as communication between the couple is fine, then there is nothing to worry about. Just note that in healthy relationships there are fights and fights are normal. Once again not saying that couples that never fight is unhealthy, it’s just not heard of as much…
In any case, I hope nothing is being bottled up. Since sooner or later it will all come out and most likely at a time one person in the couple aren't expecting it.
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Um is it healthy for couples to never really fight?
Michael answers:
A perfect relationship is one built around communication and understanding. It’s normal for people in relationships to have fights, that’s something that always happens. Disagreements, not seeing eye to eye with one and another and just varying points of views. All these generate fights and fights bring people together. How? Well let’s see.
I like tress and you like rocks. I personally hate rocks, because they are big and ugly. We don’t talk much about these things because, well we aren’t outside as much but now we are. So we have a fight about it and things look pretty bad, until you explain why you like rocks. Apparently when you were a kid, you fell down a hill and smacked into a rock. Now as much as that sucked, if that rock wasn’t there you would have fallen off the cliff and died. I can now see why you like rocks and have a better understanding of who you are.
Let’s say we didn’t have that fight. I would still hate rocks and you would never know that. Sure things would look alright on the surface, but at the root of it, that lack of communication would still be present. I don’t know if that’s something that bothers you, but it is there.
NOW! Before you go all super secret agent on you lover, know that a relationship can be healthy without fighting, it’s just not something you hear of. In fact, I’m pretty sure all relationships have fights, maybe you just haven’t counted some sort of predicament as a fight yet.
I hope this answers your question.
As long as communication between the couple is fine, then there is nothing to worry about. Just note that in healthy relationships there are fights and fights are normal. Once again not saying that couples that never fight is unhealthy, it’s just not heard of as much…
In any case, I hope nothing is being bottled up. Since sooner or later it will all come out and most likely at a time one person in the couple aren't expecting it.
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Questions from lovely people :) Part #3
Person asked:
how do u reject someone without hurting the other person?
Michael answered:
This question is almost impossible to answer. I will explain why in one word, sensitivity. Each person either more sensitive or less sensitive than next. Set’s say you walk into a movie theatre. You sit down, put your 3d glasses on , since everything is 3d these days, eat your popcorn and enjoy the show. The movie is a romantic comedy, I know those aren’t typical movies that use 3d effects, who cares. During a scene where the three falls on little Timmy, for whatever reason you don’t cry. You aren’t cold hearted, but you’ve seen enough movies with things like this included that it doesn’t bother you as much. A couple next to you is bawling their eyes out, tease all over their popcorn, ew. A couple teens in the front of laughing and cracking jokes and a couple other people are just sitting and texting on their phones. What did you see there?
You all saw the same thing, but you all didn’t feel the same way. You all took it differently. Those that were more sensitive, cried and the ones that weren’t laughed. See where I’m going with this?
It’s hard trying to determine how to reject someone, because you won’t know if it’s going to hurt them. You could easily say “I don’t want to be with you” and have the person go “alright, later” and they go about their business. Which is the correct way to deal with rejection, just brush it off. Most people will feel something though and that’s normal, it shouldn’t be about trying not to hurt them. It should be about making sure you get your point across. You are prolonging things and they will figure it out sooner or later, best to get it over with.
A lot of my female friends do this and as much as they think it’s nice and kind, it’s just confusing. Accepting a guys number, who wants to ask you out and then not answering the phone ever, is just stupid. Yes. I can see that it’s giving him a hint, but ladies we aren’t little boys, we are for the most part men and I’m sure we can handle a no and if not, either way we have to deal with no, because the world isn’t full of 100% yes.
You could always try the other approach which is just as bad and that’s lie or provide them with an obstacle.
FIRST DIRECT RESPONSE
1. I’m not that into you sorry.
2, You aren’t my type.
These work fine, they come on a little strong…but don’t try and lighten the blow with a hug, you just make him feel confused and hurt even more.
DON’T SAY THIS
“I don’t think it would work out” because when you say this, it gives the guy a chance to reason with you and you already made up your mind, you don’t want him.
YOU COULD TRY THESE, some are a little deceptive though
1. I have a boyfriend
2. I’m interested in another guy
3. I’m not looking for anything at the moment
4. I value our friendship way too much.
5. I like you as a friend.
6. You are a great friend.
7. I wouldn’t want to lose the friendship.
8. You are a like a brother to me.
OUCH! Alright these are sweet…the terms FRIEND and BROTHER are serious tools to use when rejecting someone. If anything just went talking to them, just mention how much you value the friendship and how good of a friend they are. How they are like a brother to you, they will get the hint sooner or later and know there place…
In the friend zone.
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how do u reject someone without hurting the other person?
Michael answered:
This question is almost impossible to answer. I will explain why in one word, sensitivity. Each person either more sensitive or less sensitive than next. Set’s say you walk into a movie theatre. You sit down, put your 3d glasses on , since everything is 3d these days, eat your popcorn and enjoy the show. The movie is a romantic comedy, I know those aren’t typical movies that use 3d effects, who cares. During a scene where the three falls on little Timmy, for whatever reason you don’t cry. You aren’t cold hearted, but you’ve seen enough movies with things like this included that it doesn’t bother you as much. A couple next to you is bawling their eyes out, tease all over their popcorn, ew. A couple teens in the front of laughing and cracking jokes and a couple other people are just sitting and texting on their phones. What did you see there?
You all saw the same thing, but you all didn’t feel the same way. You all took it differently. Those that were more sensitive, cried and the ones that weren’t laughed. See where I’m going with this?
It’s hard trying to determine how to reject someone, because you won’t know if it’s going to hurt them. You could easily say “I don’t want to be with you” and have the person go “alright, later” and they go about their business. Which is the correct way to deal with rejection, just brush it off. Most people will feel something though and that’s normal, it shouldn’t be about trying not to hurt them. It should be about making sure you get your point across. You are prolonging things and they will figure it out sooner or later, best to get it over with.
A lot of my female friends do this and as much as they think it’s nice and kind, it’s just confusing. Accepting a guys number, who wants to ask you out and then not answering the phone ever, is just stupid. Yes. I can see that it’s giving him a hint, but ladies we aren’t little boys, we are for the most part men and I’m sure we can handle a no and if not, either way we have to deal with no, because the world isn’t full of 100% yes.
You could always try the other approach which is just as bad and that’s lie or provide them with an obstacle.
FIRST DIRECT RESPONSE
1. I’m not that into you sorry.
2, You aren’t my type.
These work fine, they come on a little strong…but don’t try and lighten the blow with a hug, you just make him feel confused and hurt even more.
DON’T SAY THIS
“I don’t think it would work out” because when you say this, it gives the guy a chance to reason with you and you already made up your mind, you don’t want him.
YOU COULD TRY THESE, some are a little deceptive though
1. I have a boyfriend
2. I’m interested in another guy
3. I’m not looking for anything at the moment
4. I value our friendship way too much.
5. I like you as a friend.
6. You are a great friend.
7. I wouldn’t want to lose the friendship.
8. You are a like a brother to me.
OUCH! Alright these are sweet…the terms FRIEND and BROTHER are serious tools to use when rejecting someone. If anything just went talking to them, just mention how much you value the friendship and how good of a friend they are. How they are like a brother to you, they will get the hint sooner or later and know there place…
In the friend zone.
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Questions from lovely people :) Part #2
Person asked:
How do you get rid of a guy who never wants to let you go? XD he's become so clingy?
Michael answered:
Thank you :D I would love to answer this question. Clingy people are the worst aren’t they? Always in your face, wanting your time and they just scream desperate, it’s really pathetic. On the other hand, it’s nice to know someone cares for your attention to such a degree, even if it’s a little on the life draining parasite side of attention. The best method for this isn’t one I would generally advise. Since you want them gone and to get rid of them.
Simply telling them the truth, in the bluntest way possible works, but it might make you come off kind of cruel.
Telling the guy
“Look, I need my space and I find you extremely clingy and needy, leave me alone. I didn’t know how much I needed you out of my life, till I decided to ask this guy to create a blog post about it and now I know how much I need you gone.”
As effective as this would be, it’s not very nice. There is an alternative to everything and many ways to go about achieving the same goal, so let’s try something else.
You could also try the reverse and try and flip the situation. You can becoming the clingy one and hopefully this might make them less interested in you, since you are so available. Give them an extra does of you, so they have so much of your attention, they won’t know what to do with it.
The other approach would be avoidance and this might work against you. Clingy people want your attention and when someone fails to catch the attention of one person, they tend to want to try harder. People want what they can’t have and this is true for a lot of things.
You could always get a boyfriend. Most men aren’t clingy to women with boyfriends. They may chase and peruse them, sometimes, but they aren’t going to waste time hanging onto one girl who has a guy next to her, it’s just stupid.
Finally and this is the one most women use anyways, is much like avoidance but less public. When you avoid someone they are aware of this. You just vanished, instead, slowly slip into the shadows. Start with “hey I’m busy, can’t talk now” to “being offline more, not answering texts phone calls” talk to them every once in awhile, till sooner or later they will get the hint and just stop altogether….
Keep in mind this information is general and may of may not work based on the type of clingy person, you have attached to you.
Best bet is just to talk to them about it, which isn’t going to be easy. How do you tell someone they are annoying and you want them gone. That’s easy, you tell them to piss of and leave you alone, but who is honestly going to say that. That’s why all those other choices are there, but deep down you already know…honestly is the best policy…
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How do you get rid of a guy who never wants to let you go? XD he's become so clingy?
Michael answered:
Thank you :D I would love to answer this question. Clingy people are the worst aren’t they? Always in your face, wanting your time and they just scream desperate, it’s really pathetic. On the other hand, it’s nice to know someone cares for your attention to such a degree, even if it’s a little on the life draining parasite side of attention. The best method for this isn’t one I would generally advise. Since you want them gone and to get rid of them.
Simply telling them the truth, in the bluntest way possible works, but it might make you come off kind of cruel.
Telling the guy
“Look, I need my space and I find you extremely clingy and needy, leave me alone. I didn’t know how much I needed you out of my life, till I decided to ask this guy to create a blog post about it and now I know how much I need you gone.”
As effective as this would be, it’s not very nice. There is an alternative to everything and many ways to go about achieving the same goal, so let’s try something else.
You could also try the reverse and try and flip the situation. You can becoming the clingy one and hopefully this might make them less interested in you, since you are so available. Give them an extra does of you, so they have so much of your attention, they won’t know what to do with it.
The other approach would be avoidance and this might work against you. Clingy people want your attention and when someone fails to catch the attention of one person, they tend to want to try harder. People want what they can’t have and this is true for a lot of things.
You could always get a boyfriend. Most men aren’t clingy to women with boyfriends. They may chase and peruse them, sometimes, but they aren’t going to waste time hanging onto one girl who has a guy next to her, it’s just stupid.
Finally and this is the one most women use anyways, is much like avoidance but less public. When you avoid someone they are aware of this. You just vanished, instead, slowly slip into the shadows. Start with “hey I’m busy, can’t talk now” to “being offline more, not answering texts phone calls” talk to them every once in awhile, till sooner or later they will get the hint and just stop altogether….
Keep in mind this information is general and may of may not work based on the type of clingy person, you have attached to you.
Best bet is just to talk to them about it, which isn’t going to be easy. How do you tell someone they are annoying and you want them gone. That’s easy, you tell them to piss of and leave you alone, but who is honestly going to say that. That’s why all those other choices are there, but deep down you already know…honestly is the best policy…
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Questions from lovely people :) Part #1
Person asks:
What do you think someone should do when they are in a "relationship" with someone who is sometimes-ish. (or thinking about trying to make it work again).
Michael answers:
GET THE HELL OUT OF IT! No seriously though, if someone isn’t pulling their weight, you need to consider if this person is worth your time. Clearly though they are and it’s not so much they aren’t pulling their weight, it just seems they are having trouble with either he weight or the fact if they want to pull it or not. This is where the thought of commitment comes into play. Do you believe this person is committed to you and not just you, the relationship also? That’s the main thing to focus on.
I can say I want to shovel the snow. I can look you in the eyes and tell you “I want to shovel the snow”. I can even make cute faces and actions all hinting at my shovelling snow. That doesn’t mean I’m going to shovel the snow and you know that already. You can see me resting on the couch day after day, as more and more snow piles in front the door. If this sounds like the situation above, then there are a couple things you also need to consider.
Is it that the person isn’t committed or are they feeling reluctant to try and make it work for whatever reason. Maybe they realized it was a bigger task than they thought and aren’t ready to take on the hustle that comes reliving the glory days.
Maybe they honestly thought it would be a certain way and were gravely disappointed. Maybe the spark is gone and is just trying to reinforced. Is there are a lot of sex in play? Lust is often confused for love and affection, which a relationship can’t survive on.
This sometimes thing bothers me. I can understand that the other person might be feeling like I said over whelmed and not as willing to give it their all, but there is a limit to how long this should take. I’m pretty sure everyone knows how much bullshit they are willing to take. Like I said, I can say I’m going to shovel the snow. Maybe even pick out some shovels and still never get around to shovelling that snow.
NOW! To the main point, where I answer your question.
If the person is afraid of the progressing relationship. Talk to them, tell them you are also afraid, make them feel comfortable. Just make sure you are both communicating and sharing feelings with each other.
If the person is overwhelmed by the relationship altogether, talk to them. Build some form of understanding a general foundation and work from there. Talk to each other, communication is key in solving anything. If you want something to work out with another person, you have to communicate with them and solve it with their help. A relationship is a team, not one person sneaking off to deal with things on their own, I could learn from that :P.
Sex can’t be the forefront, if that’s the issue, you need to once again go back to foundation and communicate. Talk to this person about what bothers you and get some information based on what they say. I can go over and over this, but until you sit down and talk to this person, there is only so much information I can provide you.
Let that be your final answer.
What do you do?
You talk to them about it. Understand why they are only trying and thinking and not DOING…
If you are really bothered by it that much, then be done with them. Of course I don’t believe you are quitter and clearly you care for them. Even still, I would not want someone to suffer, even if most people believe you must suffer for you love.
If you are good person, love will come to you with open arms.
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What do you think someone should do when they are in a "relationship" with someone who is sometimes-ish. (or thinking about trying to make it work again).
Michael answers:
GET THE HELL OUT OF IT! No seriously though, if someone isn’t pulling their weight, you need to consider if this person is worth your time. Clearly though they are and it’s not so much they aren’t pulling their weight, it just seems they are having trouble with either he weight or the fact if they want to pull it or not. This is where the thought of commitment comes into play. Do you believe this person is committed to you and not just you, the relationship also? That’s the main thing to focus on.
I can say I want to shovel the snow. I can look you in the eyes and tell you “I want to shovel the snow”. I can even make cute faces and actions all hinting at my shovelling snow. That doesn’t mean I’m going to shovel the snow and you know that already. You can see me resting on the couch day after day, as more and more snow piles in front the door. If this sounds like the situation above, then there are a couple things you also need to consider.
Is it that the person isn’t committed or are they feeling reluctant to try and make it work for whatever reason. Maybe they realized it was a bigger task than they thought and aren’t ready to take on the hustle that comes reliving the glory days.
Maybe they honestly thought it would be a certain way and were gravely disappointed. Maybe the spark is gone and is just trying to reinforced. Is there are a lot of sex in play? Lust is often confused for love and affection, which a relationship can’t survive on.
This sometimes thing bothers me. I can understand that the other person might be feeling like I said over whelmed and not as willing to give it their all, but there is a limit to how long this should take. I’m pretty sure everyone knows how much bullshit they are willing to take. Like I said, I can say I’m going to shovel the snow. Maybe even pick out some shovels and still never get around to shovelling that snow.
NOW! To the main point, where I answer your question.
If the person is afraid of the progressing relationship. Talk to them, tell them you are also afraid, make them feel comfortable. Just make sure you are both communicating and sharing feelings with each other.
If the person is overwhelmed by the relationship altogether, talk to them. Build some form of understanding a general foundation and work from there. Talk to each other, communication is key in solving anything. If you want something to work out with another person, you have to communicate with them and solve it with their help. A relationship is a team, not one person sneaking off to deal with things on their own, I could learn from that :P.
Sex can’t be the forefront, if that’s the issue, you need to once again go back to foundation and communicate. Talk to this person about what bothers you and get some information based on what they say. I can go over and over this, but until you sit down and talk to this person, there is only so much information I can provide you.
Let that be your final answer.
What do you do?
You talk to them about it. Understand why they are only trying and thinking and not DOING…
If you are really bothered by it that much, then be done with them. Of course I don’t believe you are quitter and clearly you care for them. Even still, I would not want someone to suffer, even if most people believe you must suffer for you love.
If you are good person, love will come to you with open arms.
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Sunday, February 6, 2011
Women want to date jerks. THEY LOOOOVE JERKS!
No wrong, they don’t. You don’t have to be a jerk to get women either.
You are looking at me like I’m crazy, right? Michael, my girl-friend just ran off with this guy that cheated on her three times with her own sister and in her bed. Yeah I know it sucks right, what have you been doing? Taking her to dinner and taking her to dinner and the occasional awkward sex, yeah I can see why she would want to stay with you. Now I know what you’re saying now. You think that’s a good thing to be doing, you’re being nice, and women like nice guys. You’d be right, some do.
Though why does it seem the nice guy gets to be friends with her and the jerk gets to be well… WAY more than just friends? It’s because, the jerk appears to be manlier and outgoing than you are, that’s it. That’s why I say women aren’t interested in jerks; they are interested in what the jerk brings to them. Excitement, drama, stories, something to gossip about and of course with all those animalistic asshole qualities, great, intense, over-bearing sex.
You can’t compete with that, when all you bring to the table is dinner and some cuddle time. Time to mix it up a little, this is where you guys get it messed up, you go into jerk mode. You think, hey girls want assholes let’s be what they want. You start mistreating women and using them, no that’s wrong. Like I said women don’t want jerks, they just want the good qualities that come with the jerk. That’s simple and you can add these qualities to yourself, without a dramatic change.
STEP ONE!
Right now you’re soft and squishy. GREAT! Stay soft and squishy; there is nothing wrong with having a sensitive side. I have a sensitive side. Just add some edge, be more assertive and decisive. Instead of always asking for things, don’t ask but don’t tell people either. BE A LEADER!
Don’t do this…
You: Want to go out?
Her: Um, where?
You: It’s your choice, I’m fine with whatever.
Her: Um, hold on I have to take this call.
Horrible, just horrible. Step it up a little… You are asking, so what if she says no, you’ll be happy? Why are you asking her out, but you don’t know where to go?
This screams “I’m willing to go anywhere with you, as long as you are there.” THIS IS SWEET! For a girl you hardly know? NO! It’s creepy!
You can do this…
You: Hey, are you busy? Let’s go out.
Her: No, I’m not busy, sure sounds good.
You: Cool, meet up at 8
Her: Alright.
STEP TWO
In the case she says no, follow these tips. If she didn’t offer you another date, say she can’t make it Monday and says maybe next week Monday, alright cool. It’s your choice if you can make that or not, at least she’s showing interest. You’re not about to wait for this girl, you have other things to do. If she doesn’t offer you another date, then offer another date and if she still says she can’t make it, just say alright and don’t bother asking. There may come a day, when you do get to go out with her, but you’ll already be with someone else, so waiting around for that date, isn’t in your best interest.
If you didn’t catch that step two, is basically doing other things that perusing one girl.
STEP THREE
Tease her, tease her, and tease her. You don’t have time to say you look cute, every 5 minutes, that’s not going to get your anywhere. In fact, if you replace more of you compliments with teasing and not in a serious way. Trust me if you give off the correct body language and tone, you can get away with calling her almost anything.
This is about being fun and playful, not making her feel like an idiot. If you can throw out a teasing line and get her laughing and maybe even threatening you playfully you’re doing great.
DO NOT SERIOUSLY JUST MAKING FUN OF HER! THIS IS STUPID AND CRUEL!
STEP FOUR
Be spontaneous, the trouble with most nice guys are they are just too predictable.
That’s a good I guess, it means they are safe and there for the girl. Yeah, that’s alright but really you want to be just a little unpredictable and keep things interesting.
Bottom line here is.
Be fun, be spontaneous, a leader, playful and above all be yourself. I’m not trying to change you, I’m just giving you little things you can add to yourself, to make you a better you. I’m not like most people who say, OH just be a jerk, girls love that…no…no… don’t.
Women are with jerks because they display more manly and interesting traits than nice guys. Sooner or later women wise up and ditch the jerk for more stable and structure MEN! A couple of these men are nice guys and honestly some women want that, but jerks no…just don’t do it….
BUT! I should warn you that NOT ALL WOMEN WANT THE SAME THING! If you want all women to like you, you’ll need to morph your persona over and over again. You’d have to treat you personality like a change of clothes and it’s not worth your time…it’s immoral.
Hope you enjoyed the video; let’s see what Jim does after he reads this post. Lol
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You are looking at me like I’m crazy, right? Michael, my girl-friend just ran off with this guy that cheated on her three times with her own sister and in her bed. Yeah I know it sucks right, what have you been doing? Taking her to dinner and taking her to dinner and the occasional awkward sex, yeah I can see why she would want to stay with you. Now I know what you’re saying now. You think that’s a good thing to be doing, you’re being nice, and women like nice guys. You’d be right, some do.
Though why does it seem the nice guy gets to be friends with her and the jerk gets to be well… WAY more than just friends? It’s because, the jerk appears to be manlier and outgoing than you are, that’s it. That’s why I say women aren’t interested in jerks; they are interested in what the jerk brings to them. Excitement, drama, stories, something to gossip about and of course with all those animalistic asshole qualities, great, intense, over-bearing sex.
You can’t compete with that, when all you bring to the table is dinner and some cuddle time. Time to mix it up a little, this is where you guys get it messed up, you go into jerk mode. You think, hey girls want assholes let’s be what they want. You start mistreating women and using them, no that’s wrong. Like I said women don’t want jerks, they just want the good qualities that come with the jerk. That’s simple and you can add these qualities to yourself, without a dramatic change.
STEP ONE!
Right now you’re soft and squishy. GREAT! Stay soft and squishy; there is nothing wrong with having a sensitive side. I have a sensitive side. Just add some edge, be more assertive and decisive. Instead of always asking for things, don’t ask but don’t tell people either. BE A LEADER!
Don’t do this…
You: Want to go out?
Her: Um, where?
You: It’s your choice, I’m fine with whatever.
Her: Um, hold on I have to take this call.
Horrible, just horrible. Step it up a little… You are asking, so what if she says no, you’ll be happy? Why are you asking her out, but you don’t know where to go?
This screams “I’m willing to go anywhere with you, as long as you are there.” THIS IS SWEET! For a girl you hardly know? NO! It’s creepy!
You can do this…
You: Hey, are you busy? Let’s go out.
Her: No, I’m not busy, sure sounds good.
You: Cool, meet up at 8
Her: Alright.
STEP TWO
In the case she says no, follow these tips. If she didn’t offer you another date, say she can’t make it Monday and says maybe next week Monday, alright cool. It’s your choice if you can make that or not, at least she’s showing interest. You’re not about to wait for this girl, you have other things to do. If she doesn’t offer you another date, then offer another date and if she still says she can’t make it, just say alright and don’t bother asking. There may come a day, when you do get to go out with her, but you’ll already be with someone else, so waiting around for that date, isn’t in your best interest.
If you didn’t catch that step two, is basically doing other things that perusing one girl.
STEP THREE
Tease her, tease her, and tease her. You don’t have time to say you look cute, every 5 minutes, that’s not going to get your anywhere. In fact, if you replace more of you compliments with teasing and not in a serious way. Trust me if you give off the correct body language and tone, you can get away with calling her almost anything.
This is about being fun and playful, not making her feel like an idiot. If you can throw out a teasing line and get her laughing and maybe even threatening you playfully you’re doing great.
DO NOT SERIOUSLY JUST MAKING FUN OF HER! THIS IS STUPID AND CRUEL!
STEP FOUR
Be spontaneous, the trouble with most nice guys are they are just too predictable.
That’s a good I guess, it means they are safe and there for the girl. Yeah, that’s alright but really you want to be just a little unpredictable and keep things interesting.
Bottom line here is.
Be fun, be spontaneous, a leader, playful and above all be yourself. I’m not trying to change you, I’m just giving you little things you can add to yourself, to make you a better you. I’m not like most people who say, OH just be a jerk, girls love that…no…no… don’t.
Women are with jerks because they display more manly and interesting traits than nice guys. Sooner or later women wise up and ditch the jerk for more stable and structure MEN! A couple of these men are nice guys and honestly some women want that, but jerks no…just don’t do it….
BUT! I should warn you that NOT ALL WOMEN WANT THE SAME THING! If you want all women to like you, you’ll need to morph your persona over and over again. You’d have to treat you personality like a change of clothes and it’s not worth your time…it’s immoral.
Hope you enjoyed the video; let’s see what Jim does after he reads this post. Lol
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Saturday, February 5, 2011
Why taking her to dinner on a first date, is a bad idea.
I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking… “Michael, dinner dates are a great way to show her how much she means to me. How much I’m willing to spend on her, the atmosphere is wonderful and it’s romantic. Women love romantic stuff and I really want her to feel special. It’s also a great way for us to get to know each other and really connect on an intellectual level.”
Are you serious with that nonsense? Light conversation at a dinner table and you think you can wow a girl? You’ve clearly been watching too many romance movies or soap operas. I’m going to tell you why you shouldn’t take a girl to dinner for a first date. First off.
1. She doesn’t deserve it.
You just met this girl or you’ve been chatting and you really enjoy her company great. You don’t know if she likes you, you have vibes, yeah right, whatever. Do you really have time, patience and money to take every girl you casually date with to dinner? The answer is no, you’d be broke in a couple weeks, depending on who frequently you plan on going out.
2. It’s been done.
Dinner and movie, movie and some dinner. Chances are she’s been through this before and it’s boring. You want to know how this date goes. You don’t because it’s boring and it’s been done. I can’t stress this enough, doing the same thing again and again, is boring. You can’t take a girl to the movies all the time and you can’t take her to dinner all the time. In fact don’t even take her to dinner until you are sure you both feel the same way. You could be all goo goo eyed over here and she’s still looking at you as a friend.
3. You can’t really do anything but fail here.
Dinner dates come with a great deal of pressure. It’s your first date and you don’t know jack about the person sitting across from you. You get into that awkward conversation, your palms get all sweaty and you start sipping that wine a little too much. It’s alright though, granted you are already on the dinner date, you can come out on top. Just ask questions, listen, respond properly and ask again.
Don’t do this.
You: What type of music are you into?
Her: I like rock music, you?
You: I like rock too.
Her: Cool.
(Awkward silence)
NO! WRONG! Do this instead. This is an example of something I would say.
You: What type of music are you into?
Her: I like rock music, you?
You: Are you serious *laugh a little* I wouldn’t take you for the type? What do you have a band or something, can I have you autograph?
Her: What?! *she laughs* no
You: Are you sure? You did dress a little too flashy for this place; I think the paparazzi are outside waiting.
Her: Shut up *she laughs and smiles*
At dinner, keep it light and be playful. If you can get her laughing, dinner will go a lot smoother. You can’t have that same success with boring generic conversation.
THAT’S THE THING THOUGH. As much as dates about understanding, sharing time with each other and having a good time, you can do all that without an expensive dinner. If anything you and her should be the most important thing on the date, not the movie and not the dinner. You guys should be having so much fun, no matter how bad the entertainment around you was, you still had a good time.
First date dinners.
EXPENSIVE! BORING! PRESURE FILLED! BORING!
Liven up your dating life!
On a first date, take her bowling, rock climbing, for a walk through the city, explore places, put put golf, pool, your place if you have something worth showing her. Dinner dates are for when you really connect and want to settle down.
Above all don’t be a sleaze and take her to dinner to get in her pants. It sends the wrong signal and it makes all of us fun loving guys look bad.
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Are you serious with that nonsense? Light conversation at a dinner table and you think you can wow a girl? You’ve clearly been watching too many romance movies or soap operas. I’m going to tell you why you shouldn’t take a girl to dinner for a first date. First off.
1. She doesn’t deserve it.
You just met this girl or you’ve been chatting and you really enjoy her company great. You don’t know if she likes you, you have vibes, yeah right, whatever. Do you really have time, patience and money to take every girl you casually date with to dinner? The answer is no, you’d be broke in a couple weeks, depending on who frequently you plan on going out.
2. It’s been done.
Dinner and movie, movie and some dinner. Chances are she’s been through this before and it’s boring. You want to know how this date goes. You don’t because it’s boring and it’s been done. I can’t stress this enough, doing the same thing again and again, is boring. You can’t take a girl to the movies all the time and you can’t take her to dinner all the time. In fact don’t even take her to dinner until you are sure you both feel the same way. You could be all goo goo eyed over here and she’s still looking at you as a friend.
3. You can’t really do anything but fail here.
Dinner dates come with a great deal of pressure. It’s your first date and you don’t know jack about the person sitting across from you. You get into that awkward conversation, your palms get all sweaty and you start sipping that wine a little too much. It’s alright though, granted you are already on the dinner date, you can come out on top. Just ask questions, listen, respond properly and ask again.
Don’t do this.
You: What type of music are you into?
Her: I like rock music, you?
You: I like rock too.
Her: Cool.
(Awkward silence)
NO! WRONG! Do this instead. This is an example of something I would say.
You: What type of music are you into?
Her: I like rock music, you?
You: Are you serious *laugh a little* I wouldn’t take you for the type? What do you have a band or something, can I have you autograph?
Her: What?! *she laughs* no
You: Are you sure? You did dress a little too flashy for this place; I think the paparazzi are outside waiting.
Her: Shut up *she laughs and smiles*
At dinner, keep it light and be playful. If you can get her laughing, dinner will go a lot smoother. You can’t have that same success with boring generic conversation.
THAT’S THE THING THOUGH. As much as dates about understanding, sharing time with each other and having a good time, you can do all that without an expensive dinner. If anything you and her should be the most important thing on the date, not the movie and not the dinner. You guys should be having so much fun, no matter how bad the entertainment around you was, you still had a good time.
First date dinners.
EXPENSIVE! BORING! PRESURE FILLED! BORING!
Liven up your dating life!
On a first date, take her bowling, rock climbing, for a walk through the city, explore places, put put golf, pool, your place if you have something worth showing her. Dinner dates are for when you really connect and want to settle down.
Above all don’t be a sleaze and take her to dinner to get in her pants. It sends the wrong signal and it makes all of us fun loving guys look bad.
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Friday, February 4, 2011
How to drive someone crazy, by hardly doing anything.
Women do this all the time and not a lot of men know it. There are a few that do know it and they use it to their advantage. It has to do with your cellphone and it’s so easy, you won’t believe you didn’t do this before. Now ladies, I’m sure you are already doing this and it’s cool most of us get it. There are some guys that are getting pissed off and cursing over it though and I feel sorry for them.
So what is it? What are we doing, that’s so effective in driving people up the walls?
It’s not texting back instantly.
Yeah, think about it from a girls point of view.
1:15PM You: What’s up?
1:16PM Her: Nothing, you?
1:16PM You: Oh, I’m just here chilling? Hey what are you doing today?
(No reply for 10 minutes and so on)
Now at this point a lot is going through a guy’s head, if he really likes or wants this girl.
“Did I say something wrong?”
“Is she busy?”
“Did she lose her phone?”
“Did she get my message?”
“Eaten by a bear?”
And so on and so on.
They never just think, the girl wasn’t into them. So many defences to prevent them from feeling REJECTION!
NOW! The girl obviously got the text and just isn’t replying. Maybe she isn’t into you or maybe she’s just playing hard to get, most of the time it’s the first one. I say this because sending a what’s up text is boring and generic, you really should mix it up, more on that later.
You see we text because it’s faster right? It’s not, people don’t reply faster and since you can’t tell if they read it, you can’t be sure of anything. Seriously though, if you text a girl 99.9% of the time she read it. Girls love to text, they do it everywhere. Don’t even try and say you were in class, because I’ve seen girls whip out the blackberry and go to town on it in seconds, even with the teacher 2 feet away.
Simple.
You want to drive someone crazy, next time they text you, text them and then when they reply, wait a bit. You’re busy, you aren’t always at your phone, you have a life, let them understand that there are more important things than just texting them.
Trust me, tease to please. This is just a little snippet of information and more on teasing later.
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So what is it? What are we doing, that’s so effective in driving people up the walls?
It’s not texting back instantly.
Yeah, think about it from a girls point of view.
1:15PM You: What’s up?
1:16PM Her: Nothing, you?
1:16PM You: Oh, I’m just here chilling? Hey what are you doing today?
(No reply for 10 minutes and so on)
Now at this point a lot is going through a guy’s head, if he really likes or wants this girl.
“Did I say something wrong?”
“Is she busy?”
“Did she lose her phone?”
“Did she get my message?”
“Eaten by a bear?”
And so on and so on.
They never just think, the girl wasn’t into them. So many defences to prevent them from feeling REJECTION!
NOW! The girl obviously got the text and just isn’t replying. Maybe she isn’t into you or maybe she’s just playing hard to get, most of the time it’s the first one. I say this because sending a what’s up text is boring and generic, you really should mix it up, more on that later.
You see we text because it’s faster right? It’s not, people don’t reply faster and since you can’t tell if they read it, you can’t be sure of anything. Seriously though, if you text a girl 99.9% of the time she read it. Girls love to text, they do it everywhere. Don’t even try and say you were in class, because I’ve seen girls whip out the blackberry and go to town on it in seconds, even with the teacher 2 feet away.
Simple.
You want to drive someone crazy, next time they text you, text them and then when they reply, wait a bit. You’re busy, you aren’t always at your phone, you have a life, let them understand that there are more important things than just texting them.
Trust me, tease to please. This is just a little snippet of information and more on teasing later.
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The Perfect Relationship Guide By Michael Richardson
I've only had five real relationships and quite a few casual dating expereinces. However I'm pretty certain I understand the key to having a perfect flawless relationship. First I'm going to point out, what everyone else thinks about after a relationship FAILS!
Girls are first of course, they generally complain about they guy. Even if the guy DUMPS THEM, either way even if they do the DUMPING. This is what most women say regarding to what happened with the previous guy.
1. He was a jerk
2. He isn't into commitment OR commitment problems
3. He just wants sex OR all men are dogs
4. Man-whore, I was just next on his list
5. All the nice guys are either gay, married or just not into relationships.
and the list goes on BUT do they ever just think about the obvious...
IF YOU HAVE SO MANY FAILED RELATIONSHIPS, maybe the problem is something constant...most likely the problem is YOU
YOU are the one dating all these guys, who may use YOU, abuse YOU and finally dump YOU. In the end though it is all YOU,YOU are the only recurring factor in the situation. Of course it can't be YOU, you're perfect, you did everything right flawless...if so then why are you SINGLE and why do you have such bad luck in relationships, seriously check yourself...
This goes for both men and women though, cause honestly if something is happening enough to you, the problem is MOST LIKELY YOU!!!
NOW
I'm going to lay down how a relationship is suppose to work, COMMITMENT, COMPASSION, CONNECTION, INTMACY and TRUST these are all needed for a relationship to work, without ONE it WILL FAIL!!! WITHOUT ONE OF THESE THE REALTIONSHIP WILL DIE!!!
Commitment - Being with this ONE person and no other, it's that simple. Openly flirting and mingling with others is not commitment, it's cheating. Anything you do with someone that you will not communicate with others it's cheating...CHEATING!!! Seriously commitment is important but ALONE IT'S USELESS!!! Your relationship will still crash and burn...with this alone...
Compassion - The tiny flare in the relationship can not die. Doing all the things you did in the start to attract eachother these things should not vanish, they should be continued. Keeping it fresh and alive, compliement, being sweet to eachother and just keeping everything fresh. This is important in making sure it won't get boring and you can still maintain the longing feeling with-in a relationship..because when people don't feel LOVE they will CHEAT!!!
Connection - It's simple, you don't connect with someone it's not gonna work. You'll have this akward feeling of why you two are together and will start to drift apart...when you notice you connect better with other people than your partner something is very OFF! Which can lead to cheating seriously...it's not hard for people in relationships to DRIFT and CHEAT!
Intamcy - Being able to communicate your inner most thoughts and concerns. To be close with your partner and trullly enjoy being with them, to want to be with them and not think of it as a chore. This is needed, this is how you get close, the kissing, the hand holding...this is the stuff relationships are made of...along with connection/communication but then if thats all it is...you might aswell be friends...when you can honestly connect and feel a sense of security with the person you are with you are SAFE!!! Your realtionship will not fail...but if you do this with others, check yourself...you are SCREWING UP!
Trust - This is a no brainer, you don't trust eachother..nothing can happen...honestly trust is the last portion of a relationship...without this there is no relationship, just end it seriously...If you can't trust yourself to be faithful, honestly you are screwing up...
You see notice how all these things have to do with the BOTH OF YOU!!! I didn't mention oh it's a fail relationship is shes a b**** or hes a jerk...NO that's personality nonsense you can get over than if you have these other factors...being in love and in a relationships allows you to look past TRIVAL BULL and move on to loving the person you are with...
and honestly
BONUS!!!
CHEATER or just CHEATING - Is cheating for you...
!. Do you feel guilt or remorce after cheating?
2. Do you continue to cheat, depite other feelings or displays of affection to your real lover?
3. Do you question your desire?
Simple three questions ask yourself that and you can honestly tell if cheating is for you...cause there are people who do it like a sport and feel pride and afterwards..not me T_T I don't cheat but honestly they are out there..and the thing that sucks is...UNLESS THEY TELL YOU!!! You'll never know...
BUT
If you aren't a cheater and you are just cheating, then yes there is still hope for you just don't do it...AGAIN...there aren't many places for second chances when cheating but it happens and you can't mope about it....
Anyways..I'm signing off....JUST REMEMBER....
If your friendships/relationships are failing a lot maybe not everyone is a loser and maybe your ex lover wasn't a slut...maybe it's just you...maybe you need better game, a new attitude, stop taking things so seriously, don't be clingy or be more independent...honestly we can all change for the better or worst...but SERIOUSLY...
It's not them, it's YOU.....so fix it.
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Girls are first of course, they generally complain about they guy. Even if the guy DUMPS THEM, either way even if they do the DUMPING. This is what most women say regarding to what happened with the previous guy.
1. He was a jerk
2. He isn't into commitment OR commitment problems
3. He just wants sex OR all men are dogs
4. Man-whore, I was just next on his list
5. All the nice guys are either gay, married or just not into relationships.
and the list goes on BUT do they ever just think about the obvious...
IF YOU HAVE SO MANY FAILED RELATIONSHIPS, maybe the problem is something constant...most likely the problem is YOU
YOU are the one dating all these guys, who may use YOU, abuse YOU and finally dump YOU. In the end though it is all YOU,YOU are the only recurring factor in the situation. Of course it can't be YOU, you're perfect, you did everything right flawless...if so then why are you SINGLE and why do you have such bad luck in relationships, seriously check yourself...
This goes for both men and women though, cause honestly if something is happening enough to you, the problem is MOST LIKELY YOU!!!
NOW
I'm going to lay down how a relationship is suppose to work, COMMITMENT, COMPASSION, CONNECTION, INTMACY and TRUST these are all needed for a relationship to work, without ONE it WILL FAIL!!! WITHOUT ONE OF THESE THE REALTIONSHIP WILL DIE!!!
Commitment - Being with this ONE person and no other, it's that simple. Openly flirting and mingling with others is not commitment, it's cheating. Anything you do with someone that you will not communicate with others it's cheating...CHEATING!!! Seriously commitment is important but ALONE IT'S USELESS!!! Your relationship will still crash and burn...with this alone...
Compassion - The tiny flare in the relationship can not die. Doing all the things you did in the start to attract eachother these things should not vanish, they should be continued. Keeping it fresh and alive, compliement, being sweet to eachother and just keeping everything fresh. This is important in making sure it won't get boring and you can still maintain the longing feeling with-in a relationship..because when people don't feel LOVE they will CHEAT!!!
Connection - It's simple, you don't connect with someone it's not gonna work. You'll have this akward feeling of why you two are together and will start to drift apart...when you notice you connect better with other people than your partner something is very OFF! Which can lead to cheating seriously...it's not hard for people in relationships to DRIFT and CHEAT!
Intamcy - Being able to communicate your inner most thoughts and concerns. To be close with your partner and trullly enjoy being with them, to want to be with them and not think of it as a chore. This is needed, this is how you get close, the kissing, the hand holding...this is the stuff relationships are made of...along with connection/communication but then if thats all it is...you might aswell be friends...when you can honestly connect and feel a sense of security with the person you are with you are SAFE!!! Your realtionship will not fail...but if you do this with others, check yourself...you are SCREWING UP!
Trust - This is a no brainer, you don't trust eachother..nothing can happen...honestly trust is the last portion of a relationship...without this there is no relationship, just end it seriously...If you can't trust yourself to be faithful, honestly you are screwing up...
You see notice how all these things have to do with the BOTH OF YOU!!! I didn't mention oh it's a fail relationship is shes a b**** or hes a jerk...NO that's personality nonsense you can get over than if you have these other factors...being in love and in a relationships allows you to look past TRIVAL BULL and move on to loving the person you are with...
and honestly
BONUS!!!
CHEATER or just CHEATING - Is cheating for you...
!. Do you feel guilt or remorce after cheating?
2. Do you continue to cheat, depite other feelings or displays of affection to your real lover?
3. Do you question your desire?
Simple three questions ask yourself that and you can honestly tell if cheating is for you...cause there are people who do it like a sport and feel pride and afterwards..not me T_T I don't cheat but honestly they are out there..and the thing that sucks is...UNLESS THEY TELL YOU!!! You'll never know...
BUT
If you aren't a cheater and you are just cheating, then yes there is still hope for you just don't do it...AGAIN...there aren't many places for second chances when cheating but it happens and you can't mope about it....
Anyways..I'm signing off....JUST REMEMBER....
If your friendships/relationships are failing a lot maybe not everyone is a loser and maybe your ex lover wasn't a slut...maybe it's just you...maybe you need better game, a new attitude, stop taking things so seriously, don't be clingy or be more independent...honestly we can all change for the better or worst...but SERIOUSLY...
It's not them, it's YOU.....so fix it.
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Valentine’s Day is coming! HIDE! I’m kidding, come out of hiding.
It’s almost here! Some will hide in their rooms, bars and basements for it to be over. While others rejoice and share the wondrous time with someone they love. Hey some people will just use it to hook up. I’m talking about VALENTINES DAY!
For the longest time Valentine’s Day has been about spending time with that loved one. It’s been about, buying the perfect gift, planning the most elaborate dinner and of course, random confessions of love. It’s been locked down and dominated by couples, for the soul purpose of being more lovey dovey and in your face with their constant making out. Would you believe that despite having a girlfriend, I still can’t stand couples?
Now with all the love going on, there is the other side to Valentine’s Day. Not everyone is in a relationship, so where are most of the single people, who can’t seem to find love? They are celebrating their own holiday, Anti-Valentine’s Day, which is basically a big “I HATE YOU” to Valentine’s Day, which is alright. I can see why people would dread it, seeing people be mushy and close, when they have no one to be mushy and close with. It must suck even more, when they just got their hearts broken, ouch.
I’m here to tell you, it’s not all bad. Valentine’s Day is more than just a day for couples, it’s for everyone. If you want to hate the day, go ahead, just don’t hurt anyone. If you want to spend it with your loved one, you can do that too. There is nothing wrong just going out with a friend or even hanging back with the family. Valentine’s Day is more about love and caring for yourself and others. It’s about being able to share some time with someone else or even just you. It’s not limited to just couples.
SINGLE? :P
If you don’t know what do when the dreaded day comes, check out this list.
1. Sleep in = There is no shame in catching another few 24 hours of nap time.
2. Hang out with friends = Not everyone is in a relationship, go have fun.
3. Host an Anti-Valentine’s Day party = Try and get a piñata of a giant heart, to smash with a baseball bat.
4. Ask someone out = It’s not too late, it’s never too late. :)
5. There are tons of events for singles on this day, go find one = Bars, clubs and lounges most of the time on Valentine’s Day host events for singles to meet, hook up or just have a good time.
6. Hook up with someone = Hey I don’t judge ;)
SO when February 14th comes around, you know what to do…just have fun or do whatever. It’s just another day to have fun or spread some fun…and nothing else ;)
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For the longest time Valentine’s Day has been about spending time with that loved one. It’s been about, buying the perfect gift, planning the most elaborate dinner and of course, random confessions of love. It’s been locked down and dominated by couples, for the soul purpose of being more lovey dovey and in your face with their constant making out. Would you believe that despite having a girlfriend, I still can’t stand couples?
Now with all the love going on, there is the other side to Valentine’s Day. Not everyone is in a relationship, so where are most of the single people, who can’t seem to find love? They are celebrating their own holiday, Anti-Valentine’s Day, which is basically a big “I HATE YOU” to Valentine’s Day, which is alright. I can see why people would dread it, seeing people be mushy and close, when they have no one to be mushy and close with. It must suck even more, when they just got their hearts broken, ouch.
I’m here to tell you, it’s not all bad. Valentine’s Day is more than just a day for couples, it’s for everyone. If you want to hate the day, go ahead, just don’t hurt anyone. If you want to spend it with your loved one, you can do that too. There is nothing wrong just going out with a friend or even hanging back with the family. Valentine’s Day is more about love and caring for yourself and others. It’s about being able to share some time with someone else or even just you. It’s not limited to just couples.
SINGLE? :P
If you don’t know what do when the dreaded day comes, check out this list.
1. Sleep in = There is no shame in catching another few 24 hours of nap time.
2. Hang out with friends = Not everyone is in a relationship, go have fun.
3. Host an Anti-Valentine’s Day party = Try and get a piñata of a giant heart, to smash with a baseball bat.
4. Ask someone out = It’s not too late, it’s never too late. :)
5. There are tons of events for singles on this day, go find one = Bars, clubs and lounges most of the time on Valentine’s Day host events for singles to meet, hook up or just have a good time.
6. Hook up with someone = Hey I don’t judge ;)
SO when February 14th comes around, you know what to do…just have fun or do whatever. It’s just another day to have fun or spread some fun…and nothing else ;)
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Introduction comes with dating advice
HEY! I just wanted to say thanks for checking out my blog, it really means a lot to me. I’m not going to go into detail about myself. My names Michael Richardson, I’ve been on some dates and I’ve had a couple girlfriends. That’s about it. I’m not going to tell you I’m a pick up artist or a dating guru, I don’t have all the answers, I just have my answers, you can agree or not, it doesn’t affect me. I believe there are many ways to go about doing something and many ways to accomplish the same goal.
An example of this and I will go into this in more detail is, if you want to kiss somebody, you can either ask them or go for it and both would work. One might work better than the other and there are many reasons for this.
Some people believe you should ask, it’s respectful and shows you want to make sure she’s comfortable. Others believe that approach is wimpy and show’s you are weak and unsure of yourself. If a man wants to kiss someone, he should go for it. That assertive kind of thinking, see it and take it. Now, to be honest both of these approaches work fine, it just depends on the woman your with.
From personal experience, I was usually just the one to go for it, that doesn’t always work. Sometimes women are shy and would rather you ask them, because they honestly do not feel comfortable having you just be that aggressive.
This also came as a shock to me, when my current girlfriend said it to me. “If you want to kiss me, just ask.”
Anyways I will talk more about that later, but this is what I’m trying to communicate to you. Perspective is important, being able to see things from all angles and not just your own point of view. That’s what I’m trying to give you here.
If you had to travel through a dark forest on your own, only knowing that somewhere in there is a wolf willing to tear you to shreds, you wouldn’t get very far.
BUT
If you had to travel through the same dark forest, with a flash light, maybe a torch, something to defend yourself with and a detailed map of where the wolf is most of the time, you’d have a better chance of getting through that forest alive.
That’s what this blog is about, giving you that flash light, that torch and that map. Trying to get you through the bull that you don’t understand and towards something you deserve, something that seems out of reach, but has been in front of you all this time…you just didn’t have the tools to unlock and own it…
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An example of this and I will go into this in more detail is, if you want to kiss somebody, you can either ask them or go for it and both would work. One might work better than the other and there are many reasons for this.
Some people believe you should ask, it’s respectful and shows you want to make sure she’s comfortable. Others believe that approach is wimpy and show’s you are weak and unsure of yourself. If a man wants to kiss someone, he should go for it. That assertive kind of thinking, see it and take it. Now, to be honest both of these approaches work fine, it just depends on the woman your with.
From personal experience, I was usually just the one to go for it, that doesn’t always work. Sometimes women are shy and would rather you ask them, because they honestly do not feel comfortable having you just be that aggressive.
This also came as a shock to me, when my current girlfriend said it to me. “If you want to kiss me, just ask.”
Anyways I will talk more about that later, but this is what I’m trying to communicate to you. Perspective is important, being able to see things from all angles and not just your own point of view. That’s what I’m trying to give you here.
If you had to travel through a dark forest on your own, only knowing that somewhere in there is a wolf willing to tear you to shreds, you wouldn’t get very far.
BUT
If you had to travel through the same dark forest, with a flash light, maybe a torch, something to defend yourself with and a detailed map of where the wolf is most of the time, you’d have a better chance of getting through that forest alive.
That’s what this blog is about, giving you that flash light, that torch and that map. Trying to get you through the bull that you don’t understand and towards something you deserve, something that seems out of reach, but has been in front of you all this time…you just didn’t have the tools to unlock and own it…
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