Person asked:
Um is it healthy for couples to never really fight?
Michael answers:
A perfect relationship is one built around communication and understanding. It’s normal for people in relationships to have fights, that’s something that always happens. Disagreements, not seeing eye to eye with one and another and just varying points of views. All these generate fights and fights bring people together. How? Well let’s see.
I like tress and you like rocks. I personally hate rocks, because they are big and ugly. We don’t talk much about these things because, well we aren’t outside as much but now we are. So we have a fight about it and things look pretty bad, until you explain why you like rocks. Apparently when you were a kid, you fell down a hill and smacked into a rock. Now as much as that sucked, if that rock wasn’t there you would have fallen off the cliff and died. I can now see why you like rocks and have a better understanding of who you are.
Let’s say we didn’t have that fight. I would still hate rocks and you would never know that. Sure things would look alright on the surface, but at the root of it, that lack of communication would still be present. I don’t know if that’s something that bothers you, but it is there.
NOW! Before you go all super secret agent on you lover, know that a relationship can be healthy without fighting, it’s just not something you hear of. In fact, I’m pretty sure all relationships have fights, maybe you just haven’t counted some sort of predicament as a fight yet.
I hope this answers your question.
As long as communication between the couple is fine, then there is nothing to worry about. Just note that in healthy relationships there are fights and fights are normal. Once again not saying that couples that never fight is unhealthy, it’s just not heard of as much…
In any case, I hope nothing is being bottled up. Since sooner or later it will all come out and most likely at a time one person in the couple aren't expecting it.
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