Why taking her to dinner on a first date, is a bad idea.

I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking… “Michael, dinner dates are a great way to show her how much she means to me. How much I’m willing to spend on her, the atmosphere is wonderful and it’s romantic. Women love romantic stuff and I really want her to feel special. It’s also a great way for us to get to know each other and really connect on an intellectual level.”

Are you serious with that nonsense? Light conversation at a dinner table and you think you can wow a girl? You’ve clearly been watching too many romance movies or soap operas. I’m going to tell you why you shouldn’t take a girl to dinner for a first date. First off.

1. She doesn’t deserve it.

You just met this girl or you’ve been chatting and you really enjoy her company great. You don’t know if she likes you, you have vibes, yeah right, whatever. Do you really have time, patience and money to take every girl you casually date with to dinner? The answer is no, you’d be broke in a couple weeks, depending on who frequently you plan on going out.

2. It’s been done.

Dinner and movie, movie and some dinner. Chances are she’s been through this before and it’s boring. You want to know how this date goes. You don’t because it’s boring and it’s been done. I can’t stress this enough, doing the same thing again and again, is boring. You can’t take a girl to the movies all the time and you can’t take her to dinner all the time. In fact don’t even take her to dinner until you are sure you both feel the same way. You could be all goo goo eyed over here and she’s still looking at you as a friend.

3. You can’t really do anything but fail here.

Dinner dates come with a great deal of pressure. It’s your first date and you don’t know jack about the person sitting across from you. You get into that awkward conversation, your palms get all sweaty and you start sipping that wine a little too much. It’s alright though, granted you are already on the dinner date, you can come out on top. Just ask questions, listen, respond properly and ask again.

Don’t do this.

You: What type of music are you into?
Her: I like rock music, you?
You: I like rock too.
Her: Cool.
(Awkward silence)

NO! WRONG! Do this instead. This is an example of something I would say.

You: What type of music are you into?
Her: I like rock music, you?
You: Are you serious *laugh a little* I wouldn’t take you for the type? What do you have a band or something, can I have you autograph?
Her: What?! *she laughs* no
You: Are you sure? You did dress a little too flashy for this place; I think the paparazzi are outside waiting.
Her: Shut up *she laughs and smiles*

At dinner, keep it light and be playful. If you can get her laughing, dinner will go a lot smoother. You can’t have that same success with boring generic conversation.

THAT’S THE THING THOUGH. As much as dates about understanding, sharing time with each other and having a good time, you can do all that without an expensive dinner. If anything you and her should be the most important thing on the date, not the movie and not the dinner. You guys should be having so much fun, no matter how bad the entertainment around you was, you still had a good time.
First date dinners.

EXPENSIVE! BORING! PRESURE FILLED! BORING!

Liven up your dating life!

On a first date, take her bowling, rock climbing, for a walk through the city, explore places, put put golf, pool, your place if you have something worth showing her. Dinner dates are for when you really connect and want to settle down.

Above all don’t be a sleaze and take her to dinner to get in her pants. It sends the wrong signal and it makes all of us fun loving guys look bad.



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