Questions from lovely people :) Part #2

Person asked:
How do you get rid of a guy who never wants to let you go? XD he's become so clingy?

Michael answered:
Thank you :D I would love to answer this question. Clingy people are the worst aren’t they? Always in your face, wanting your time and they just scream desperate, it’s really pathetic. On the other hand, it’s nice to know someone cares for your attention to such a degree, even if it’s a little on the life draining parasite side of attention. The best method for this isn’t one I would generally advise. Since you want them gone and to get rid of them.

Simply telling them the truth, in the bluntest way possible works, but it might make you come off kind of cruel.

Telling the guy

“Look, I need my space and I find you extremely clingy and needy, leave me alone. I didn’t know how much I needed you out of my life, till I decided to ask this guy to create a blog post about it and now I know how much I need you gone.”

As effective as this would be, it’s not very nice. There is an alternative to everything and many ways to go about achieving the same goal, so let’s try something else.

You could also try the reverse and try and flip the situation. You can becoming the clingy one and hopefully this might make them less interested in you, since you are so available. Give them an extra does of you, so they have so much of your attention, they won’t know what to do with it.

The other approach would be avoidance and this might work against you. Clingy people want your attention and when someone fails to catch the attention of one person, they tend to want to try harder. People want what they can’t have and this is true for a lot of things.

You could always get a boyfriend. Most men aren’t clingy to women with boyfriends. They may chase and peruse them, sometimes, but they aren’t going to waste time hanging onto one girl who has a guy next to her, it’s just stupid.

Finally and this is the one most women use anyways, is much like avoidance but less public. When you avoid someone they are aware of this. You just vanished, instead, slowly slip into the shadows. Start with “hey I’m busy, can’t talk now” to “being offline more, not answering texts phone calls” talk to them every once in awhile, till sooner or later they will get the hint and just stop altogether….

Keep in mind this information is general and may of may not work based on the type of clingy person, you have attached to you.

Best bet is just to talk to them about it, which isn’t going to be easy. How do you tell someone they are annoying and you want them gone. That’s easy, you tell them to piss of and leave you alone, but who is honestly going to say that. That’s why all those other choices are there, but deep down you already know…honestly is the best policy…

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