Questions from lovely people :) Part #6

Person asked:
why would a guy claim they really like someone, yet still fool around with others. even if theyre capable of getting into a proper relationship with the one they really like.

Michael answers:
There are a lot of reasons as to why one would pull the typical.

“I really like you, but” remark and I’ll list them out for you.

1. He wants to keep his options open. Ever heard of putting all your eggs in one basket? Let’s say he does do that, one day he just messes up and drops the basket, bye bye eggs. Let’s say that basket is faulty and just breaks, once again, bye bye eggs. Let’s say he leaves the basket of eggs for abit and some other guy comes around and starts trying to make those eggs hatch, o_O *what?* I don’t know…all I know is, if anything happens to that basket or those eggs…it’s bye bye eggs.
If you send all your troops to war, you risk having them all shot down my machine guns and alertly fire. If you dedicate all your time to one girl, you risk losing her, having your heart broken, time wasted and lose out on so many other opportunities.

Now you’re thinking “BUT WAIT!? Don’t you have a girlfriend, why do you seem so against commitment?” I’m getting to that.
When one can look past the other opportunities because the person they are with is worth it…then it works. That’s when your troops come back, won the war and you celebrate…

This guy could honestly just be thinking.

“Hey, she’s cute and I like her. Then again, I want to keep my options open. That girl over there is checking me out and I got a date with so and so, you know I don’t know if I want to get all comfy and cozy with this one girl.
It sucks but it’s true. If this is the case that girl better make it known she wants to be the only one and risk getting the B O O T because he wants B O O T I E S vs the one B O O T Y …

2. If he got out of a bad relationship, maybe he doesn’t want to jump back into one. Maybe he’s afraid it’s gonna be just like that last and he wants to save himself the trouble. Maybe his last girlfriend beat him with a broom stick after sex, I don’t know. A traumatizing past relationship, could effect a future relationship…dude might just have issues.

3. The worst. Maybe he’s just not into this girl. Maybe he knows she will cut once he tells her the truth. The truth that’s being hidden behind the…

“I really like you, I just don’t want to put a label on it.”
Which could just mean.

“I really like you, but honestly I like a lot of girls and I don’t want to mess up this nice little thing I have going with all the girls that like me. So I’m going to put my “relationship life” on cruise control and just “casually date” all of you…till something happens, because I’m not focusing on being “official” …

In short.

Life’s too short to be with one person.

Let’s all get goddesses like Charlie Sheen

I kid but seriously, I gave you the honest straight to the point answer...

Dude just might one more than one girl...wants to keep his options open...
And might be stringing you along and not respecting that you want more...

It's your call. You can always do better.

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